Understanding The Stages Of Grief

By: Tom Gallagher
Wednesday, June 15, 2022

At Sholom Chapel, we have seen that everyone processes sorrow at their own pace and in their own way. Some recover in a matter of months, while others require years. There is no right or wrong answer to experiencing this, and there are no predetermined patterns or procedures for rehabilitation.

The 5 Stages of Grief

People have their own coping mechanisms, thus it is essential to allow them their space. While various individuals experience sorrow in unique ways, most go through the same phases. These stages were initially identified by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross thirty years ago.

1. Denial

Those who are left behind after the death of a loved one feel disbelief. Reality and denial take some time to set in. Individuals will initially reject death, particularly if it occurs suddenly and without warning.

2. Anger

Anger is a natural and healthy reaction to loss, serving as a release for all internalized suffering. Oftentimes, bereaved persons suffer episodes of anger, hopelessness, and frustration, which should not be denied.

3. Bargaining

People seek to identify how they may have prevented death at this stage. Questions such as "were he/she given the proper treatment", "should I have taken him/her to the hospital sooner" or "if they hadn't left the house" may torment the mind.

4. Depression

This is the point where reality and resignation begin to set in. People endure excruciating agony and a crushing feeling of hopelessness. Individuals may require months, if not years, to recover from this condition.

5. Acceptance

This is the final phase in which people accept their tragedy and focus on the future. They have come to terms with the death of a loved one, allowing them to think positively of the deceased.


If you need information about our funeral services and preplanning, please get in touch with Sholom Chapel, and we will get back to you shortly. Our team is here to help you with all the information you need regarding sending flowers to the bereaved.

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