Tips for Letting Go of a Loved One While Keeping Them Close to Your Heart

By: Tom Gallagher
Wednesday, July 13, 2016

In the days after learning of the death of a family member or loved one, it can be difficult to find purpose and meaning in life. Shock eventually gives way to grief and anger and feeling helpless, stressed and confused. Everyone deals with grief differently, which makes recovering from it a unique and individualized process. One thing that almost everyone can relate to is the feeling of guilt when grief begins to subside, and acceptance occurs. Letting go of a loved one who has passed away is hard. Here are some tips for letting go while keeping them close to your heart.

Get Support

Talking about your feelings with friends, family or even a support group is a great way to express yourself and vocalize internal feelings of grief and sadness. Talking about things, with a close friend or therapist, will help develop coping mechanisms that will allow you to move on from grieving, while still keeping the love for that person in your heart. 

Continue to Take Care of Yourself

For many, grief causes a feeling of depression. When depressed, a person may neglect self-care. During a depression, it’s common to forget to bathe, lose interest in food and exercise and the joy in activities you once enjoyed. If you think about what your loved one would have wanted for you, it’s most likely they would prefer to see you thriving. Although guilt may make you feel like you are doing something wrong, continuing to practice self-care is the better way to pay respect to your loved one and move on from the shock of their loss. 

Find Relief in Faith

Prayer is often helpful for many people. Praying can make you feel closer to your loved one like you are still able to talk to them and seek guidance from them. Finding relief in prayer is an excellent way to keep the person close to you, while moving on in your day-to-day life. 

Organize a Memorial

Taking steps to organize a memorial for your loved one can be very therapeutic and healing. By focusing on the positive impact the person has had in your life, and how they have helped others, you can pay respect to them in your own way. If it’s too painful to organize a memorial, you can always wait and plan something for a special day such as their birthday, wedding anniversary or another date that holds meaning. 

Moving on from the death of a loved one is hard, but with the help of your friends and family, it can be easier. Find out how Thomas M. Gallagher Funeral Home in Stamford, CT can make the grieving process more bearable. Call (203) 359-9999 today and speak with one of our friendly and compassionate experts.


Leave a comment
Please enter the letters you see in the image.


Please wait

Previous Posts

Should Your Child Attend the Funeral?

Parents want to protect their child from the harsh realities of life for as long as they can. They’re most reluctant to discuss death and funerals, fearing they might scare their kids. Experts and ...

What do Funeral Directors do for a Family?

There are several different ways in which you can memorialize and honor a person who has passed away. These services give some solace to the grieving family. Most families want the funeral service ...

How to Get Through the First Couple of Weeks after a Death

Working your way through the first few days and weeks after the death of a family member can be extremely challenging. Many people manage all the funeral service arrangements as well as funeral hom...

Creative Ideas for Funeral Services

Today, many people don’t feel that shedding tears and walking around in a morose manner is absolutely necessary when a loved one dies.  If someone close to you has lived a full life and been a...

Online Grief Support Resources

It’s not easy to deal with grief and sometimes asking a family member or friend for support isn’t an option. Different people have different ways to cope with grief and some of these coping mechani...

Coping with the Loss of a Loved One During the Holidays

Dealing with the loss of a loved one is never easy, especially during times of celebrations like the holidays. You spend your holidays with your loved ones as it’s a time to cherish everyone in you...

Benefits of Planning your Funeral While You’re Still Alive

Speaking about death is never easy so most people try to avoid it as much as they can. While this is understandable, we at Gallagher Funeral Home, encourage people to consider the benefits of plann...

3 Tips for Explaining Death to a Child

Explaining the concept of death to a child is very challenging. Most parents want to avoid it as long as possible because they don’t want to introduce such a grim and sad fact of life. Sometimes th...

The Most Unique Ways to Memorialize a Loved One

There are a number of ways to honor and memorialize a decedent and provide solace to the family left behind. Most families want the memorial service to be comforting, familiar, and personal so they...

Memorial Ideas for Veterans

If you’re stuck trying to come up with memorial ideas for veterans, there are a number of options open to you. There really is no way to properly memorialize our veterans, after everythin...