Coping with the Loss of a Loved One During the Holidays
Dealing with the loss of a loved one is never easy, especially during times of celebrations like the holidays. You spend your holidays with your loved ones as it’s a time to cherish everyone in your circle of family and friends. A recent loss of a loved one from within that circle can make the holiday atmosphere very painful and even have a negative impact on your healing process. Here are some tips and suggestions that can help you through this and ensure you spend the holidays in a healthy manner:
1. Take time away from the grieving family
While it’s good for all grieving members of the family to come together and support each other, it’s also wise to take time away from them and just focus on yourself. This is especially true during the holiday season where family gatherings are often filled with lamentations, what-ifs, and grief. Spend time with friends and partners who are not connected to the loss and draw comfort from them.
2. Find a healthy way to remember the loved one
It’s important to focus on the positives and create positive memories associated with the deceased individual. For example, you can focus on ticking off items on their bucket list, donate or volunteer with a local charity in their name, or watch movies or plays that they loved. This can help you reconcile with your loss and still maintain the holiday spirit of giving and joy.
3. Set limits
Set limits on how many family gatherings you’ll attend and how long you will stay. It’s important to not push yourself and bear the crowds when you don’t want to. Allow yourself to say no when you’re not ready.